THE
INVISIBLE JOB
How Sharing Home and Parental Responsibilities Leads to Happier Lives

When women end up carrying the lion's share of parenting and home responsibilities (especially on top of a paid job), the mental load it creates has huge consequences on their physical and mental health, personal goals, identity, career and long-term financial security.
Men’s failure to share responsibility for this HUGE job fairly with their partner lies at the heart of gender imbalance in society today. Creating equality and balance in your relationship leads to happier, more fulfilling lives for both partners. That's why both people need to identify and appreciate what The Invisible Job of parenting and managing a home actually involves – so you can then figure out together how to share it equally.
Before having children, none of us has a clue how our life is about to change. There aren’t enough hours in the day for all the things you want to do.....but that’s just life!
I SEE MEN AND WOMEN AS EQUALS
Right now I’m just focusing on college
Half excited, half terrified about becoming a parent, you are confident that you and your partner will figure it out, together.
After all, it can’t be that hard. Right?
If I do choose to become a mother
He’s a good guy
but…
But here’s the thing: even though you and your partner always felt like equals before, once you have children, there’s this HUGE new job that suddenly appears.
All my friends are getting married
We’re eight months pregnant
Somehow, responsibility for
The Invisible Job
falls to mothers by default, while men are free to 'opt in' when it suits.
I never thought it would be this hard!
Why is it always me?
Mothers of young children are too exhausted to fully appreciate what the job involves - or notice that it is getting bigger every day. All you know is that you are about to crack!
And the better you do The Invisible Job, the more invisible it becomes, to EVERYONE, especially your partner.
I used to be amazing
I keep my invisible job very low profile
Imbalance in responsibility for
The Invisible Job
significantly impacts women’s career, financial security, personal goals, physical and mental health, along with their self-worth and identity.
My husband thinks she gets it from him
My partner doesn’t even know the invisible job exists
It also limits the potential of what a man's identity as a father and a partner can be, has significant consequences for relationships.
Whether or not it results in breakdown depends on how long it takes couples to appreciate what
The Invisible Job
involves and have an open and honest discussion about how to manage it fairly.
The mental load
Why do you come to bed so late?
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Published in the UK and Ireland March 2021. Click here for updates and reviews.